My Favorite.. is a weekly meme hosted by Maureen’s Books. In this meme, we share every week something we love with each other. Because let’s face it…The world can be a dark place and it’s time to share something positive.
Thing About 2018…So Far
Honestly, my favorite thing about 2018 so far is my break-up after almost 4 years with The Man. (This happened at the beginning of March. You can read more about it here.) I do not mean this in a petty way (although…maybe – I’m trying to be honest here). This break-up has given me so many things I would not have had had I still been in that relationship with that person. Here’s what I can think of off the top of my head…
- I did not realize how depressed I was with him due to the living and work situations. I never saw him anymore, even on his weekends off. He would sleep until 5-7pm or later. We could never go do anything.
- I can go do things! And I don’t feel like I’m going to miss him going off to to work or miss out by not going.
- I am so much happier. It is like a huge weight has lifted off me.
- I don’t have to spend $400+ in gas and tolls anymore.
- I started making my room not temporary.
- I bit the bullet and moved out of the “temporary” living situation I was in.
- I know have a house all to myself.
- I am 15 minutes from work instead of 50.
- I have reconnected with Baby. While she still does her typical Eeyore self, she makes a point to come for attention when she wants it. And vice versa.
- I run around the house and play with Baby.
- I have a fucking office and library!!! SPACE TO WORK!!! I’m not working out of my lap anymore!
- I don’t have anyone making side-eyes about what I eat at home or out besides myself.
- I still have the pregnancy pillow and sleep like a rock.
- Baby gets in bed with me. And loves the pregnancy pillow.
- Karma gets you. And I just smile my evil smile and tell my kids, family, and friends.
- If I so choose, I can be intimate with someone. Yes, y’all…first time in almost 4 years.
- I don’t feel as harried and stressed.
- If I don’t want to go anywhere, there are no huffs.
- I can go to the grocery store prepared with a list instead of sprung on me – and no more snarky remarks about not knowing what I want.
- I can speak up about what I want – when I first feel the need to to the people who need to hear it. I don’t have to keep my mouth shut to avoid blowback.
- I have strengthened my relationship with my mom.
- I took the plunge and went to see a stylist about the extensions I’ve wanted for over half a year.
- I don’t live my life out of a suitcase, praying and hoping I have the right attire or enough underwear.
- I can blog and bullet journal freely, any time I want.
- I don’t have to live with or deal with a habitual liar.
- I don’t have to live with a cheater.
- I do not have to live with my affection being pushed away.
- Everyone can make Dick jokes.
- I can spend as much time as I want with my “crazy, loud” family and not feel bad for anyone else.
- I do what I want when I want.
Female solidarity fist pump.
Honestly, it sounds like you are so much happier now and that is so awesome. Continue with those good vibes and doing things for you!
Good for you! I can so relate to this. I went through a break up where I was devastated at first but quickly realized how much he was holding me back!
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I had a thoroughly toxic relationship – the sad thing was, I was married to him and had his children. The biggest regret of my life is that I didn’t leave him sooner! Go you for having the courage to see it through:)
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