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Like all things, in moderation is best. Too much of a good thing can have negative consequences. I think there is too much of a wide array of social media and other duplicitous apps out there to hide kids’ content from parents and send files, photos, locations, and more “anonymously”.
My kids are not getting cell phones until they are 12-14. I want to ensure they have a strong family foundation and I have the time and opportunity to teach them the appropriate and proper ways to interact and respond in person as well as online. You also have to teach your children about online safety, cyberbulling, and also teach how to be a strong, self-confident individual independent of social media.
- Screen time is monitored and limited.
- They cannot download an app without approval.
- The only social media apps my kids will be allowed to have are Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. There will be no Snapchat or other strange apps to send content to other users.
- They have to share their passwords with me.
- I will do random phone checks. The first time a password does not work, phone goes to jail.
- All electronics plugged in to the charger in my bedroom at 8:30 pm. (Yes, that means my kids will learn how to use an actual alarm clock.)
- There is research that social media is affecting our brains, particularly its plasticity (the way the brain grows and changes after experiencing different things).
- Positive attention on social media (“likes”) shows significantly greater activation in parts of the brain’s reward circuitry. This is the same thing in our brain that reacts to a photo of a loved one. This can lead to positive and negative peer influences.
- Social media and other screen time can be addictive.
- The social interaction with others is dying out as social media interaction replaces face-to-face. Subtle gestures and facial expressions are like a new language to read and speak.
- Social media can cause teens to lose touch with their family foundation as they attach more and more to their peers.
Here is a really good resource on monitoring your child’s social media.